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Guidelines for Growth & Aging with Attitude Gerald Jampolsky, M.D. WWW.AHINTERNATIONAL.ORG The people we know who go through the growth and aging process with the most happiness and peace seem to be “Aging with Attitude.” They all have something in common: a positive mindset. We have talked with many people over the years and complied a list of guidelines that reflect the many aspects of a positive attitude toward life & aging. We suggest you take one guideline a day and imagine it becoming an invisible part of your heart. You may also find it helpful to write the Guideline on a card and read it hourly to study the message as the day progresses. 1. Live in gratitude and count your blessings every day. 2. Resist the temptation to interpret people’s behavior to decide who is innocent and who is guilty. 3. Choose to make forgiving others and yourself as important as breathing. 4. Choose to not take yourself too seriously. 5. Choose to keep a good sense of humor about yourself no matter what is happening to you. 6. Begin to see no value in anger or in making others wrong. 7. Decide to learn to see the value of infinite patience with yourself and others. 8. Learn to see value in living your life based on the belief that love is the answer to any problem you have now or any problem you think you have in the future. 9. Start to believe that when you stop complaining about your age and what is happening to your body, your day will be more happy and peace-filled. 10. Be kind and tender to others as well as to yourself. 11. Be authentic, respectful and have the same interest in others as you do in yourself. 12. Choose to live in a consciousness of helping others. 13. Listen to all others, with no exceptions, with unconditional love. 14. Let go of all of your judgments. 15. Choose to live your life in gratitude and laugh a lot. 16. See the Light in everyone rather than their lampshade. 17. Imagine there a 4-year-old child inside of your heart that is playful, lives in the present, cannot tell time yet, doesn’t yet understand the difference between yesterday and tomorrow and likes to be silly and laugh most of the time without any particular reason. 18. Look beyond the body and see the Innocence and Light in everyone including yourself. 19. Choose to be a “love-finder” rather than a “fault-finder.” 20. Choose to believe the truth that there is no value in worrying about anything and that to worry is a decision to suffer. 21. No matter what is going on in your body, choose spiritually to be fully alive and not half-dead and celebrate your spiritual core inside of your heart. 22. Make decisions by following your heart rather than your head. 23. Decide to let the sun shine in your heart regardless of the weather outside. 24. When you get stuck in life or in your head, remember that music can set you free. 25. Make “Loving Kindness” your song of the day, every day. 26. Choose to have faith and trust in something that is greater than yourself. 27. Choose to act every day and night as if compassion was the center of your DNA (which it really is). 28. Remember that only the strong can dare to be gentle. 29. By letting go of fear and experiencing love, you will find it safe become transparent and translucent. 30. Choose to make a decision that this day is going to be the happiest day of your life, regardless of what is put on your plate and what is happening to your body. |

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The TO BE List by Gerald Jampolsky, M.D. and Diane Cirincione, Ph.D.
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We have discovered that starting our day with our “to be” list instead of our “to do” list brings us a sense of peace and happiness far beyond anything we have previously experienced. It is a profound way of celebrating our “being,” the essence of love that is our true identity and our true natural state of happiness. Doing this each morning has changed our state of mind far beyond anything we have ever experienced. Our “to be” list serves to reminds us of our core self which is so often hidden from our daily awareness by the bus-i-ness of our daily doings and thoughts. It helps to remind us of our “spiritual self,” rather than our “doing self” as we bring forth the essence of our being as the Love that we truly are. This daily reminder emphasizes that we are more than just our physical bodies and that the Love we give and receive is lasting and, literally, affects the world around us. We say the list out loud and it has a deeper effect than just reading or thinking the words. We always begin with the commitment that “today is going to be the best and happiest day of my life.” No matter what happens this day, the following thoughts on consciousness enable us to learn and grow from every situation without exception.
The “TO BE” List for us TODAY includes
MY BEING IS:
The light of the world.
The essence of love Unconditionally loving Unconditionally forgiving Spirit, not a body
A co-creator of love
One with all that is Guiltless Ageless Fearless Patient Formless Timeless Peaceful Compassionate
Kindness Tenderness Happiness
Non-judgmental Grateful Generous Eternal
Honest Grace-filled Faithful
Trusting Open-minded Open-hearted
Caring Giving Innocent & Unmeasureable
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Kapa'a. First & third Wednesdays 7Pm
Kapaa United Church of Christ -- Bldg. beside church) -- room near the back 1315 Ulu St., Kapaa
823- 8384-- Best to call first.
Wailua Homesteads mini- retreats/ AH & more-- 2nd & 4th Saturdays-- see Meetups Page Calendar
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http://www.ahinternational.org/about/about-ahinternational/what-is-attitudinal-healing from which these excerpts are drawn. ________________________________________________________________ Email the Center or call Lucky at 822- 0333 to come to a gathering! 823-8384 / Text at 346-2460 Our Group Guidelines include:
1. We recognize that love is listening and we do so with an open heart. We agree to practice kind, non- judgmental support and sharing. 2. I am here to heal myself. I am not here to give advice or change anyone’s beliefs or behavior. Being accepted as i am makes it easier for me to accept others. 3. I choose to share from my own experience. By risking and exposing my own emotional state, I find common experience that allows for joining. 4. I respect myself and others as unique, recognizing that each person’s process and inner guidance is to be valued & important. * Our program is spiritual in nature, but without dogma or religious language, and it can be altered to meet the need of each individual. We have a total of12 Guidelines that also include confidentiality as well as respect for each person's own inner truth. We are proud to say that the confidentiality of our group has never been broken in our many years on Kaua'i. More info at 823- 8384 |
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Attitudinal Healing occurs when we make the decision to teach and share only love.
Attitudinal Healing occurs when we make the decision to teach and share only love.